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Reaching orgasm
I'm 16 years old, currently on the Pill and have been for about two years. I have a problem with reaching an orgasm when having sex, or even enjoying sex at all. I have never had an orgasm during sex. The sex drive is there but when I have sex with my boyfriend, I feel no pleasure or no drive to orgasm, and am left disappointed and insecure about myself.
From Julie
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No, you're not 'the only one'! In fact, researches have found that most British women don't orgasm until they're 19 years old. I'm sure you will get there. I suggest you borrow a book The Big “O”’ from your local library.
Working in the City
Over a year ago, I fell in love with a man who was working in the city where I live. After a month he moved back home he now lives 300 miles away. I only see him about five or six times a year and he contacts me once a month. Last time I saw him, he said there was no one else, but the he didn’t want a heavy relationship as he wants to focus on his work. Should I be grateful for what we have as friends or stop all contact because I can‘t get what I want?
From Kelly
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Kelly, you deserve a man who will put you first every time – not a man who would rather focus on work, so please don‘t be grateful for the crumbs of friendship he throws you. I ‘m afraid its time to say adios to this fella – you can’t keep a relationship going based on how great it used to be. It will be tough, but it’s got to be easier than waiting for someone who doesn’t want to be waited for, if you can’t see that the world has mere happiness to offer you, then you’re not looking hard enough, Get yourself out there girl.
Am I pregnant
Is it possible to be pregnant and have a period ? I nearly did a pregnancy test , then I experienced a very light period then it stopped . But I still have tender breasts and the nausea Even though my bleeding has stopped.
From Estelle
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A woman can still be pregnant and still have a very light period in the early weeks of pregnancy, when a women conceives, the fertilised egg implants in the uterus this can cause a small amount of blood or it could also be a threatened miscarriage . I suggest you get a pregnancy test done as soon as possible . If the test is positive you should consult your gp about the bleeding .
My boyfriend ogles blondes!
I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. He always does a double take when he sees a blonde woman (I am dark haired). He tells me he doesn't know why he does it, but would never be unfaithful. I find it hard to trust him because of his ogling, though he never flirts with them. Am I being paranoid or is he unreasonable?
From Suzanne
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It is scientifically proven that long blonde hair does capture a males attention, but this does not mean that every man will stare at blonde haired woman . I really don't think you have much to worry about. There's nothing wrong with looking as long as he is not touching! .The thing is the blondes may get the once over by him but you get the whole thing- be confident, you should be after 2 years. I'm sure there's the odd time you look at certain guys too...you just don't get caught! You could dye your hair blonde if you really wanted just to surprise your boyfriend, but other than that you needn't be so paranoid.
