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Weird Noises
Although I ve had sex in lots of positions with my boyfriend, I tend to prefer it with him on top because of past embarrassment. When I did it doggy – style with my ex, weird noises started coming out and ever since I haven t dared try it again, Now my new bloke really wants to do it that way. Shall I just go for it? Or will I be embarrassed again?
From Louise
Answer
Have you ever wondered why the music gets really loud in a films sex scene? Most people think it s to add a stirring soundtrack to an emotional moment, but no it’s to cover up all of those squeaks and squelches that even the likes of Julia, Catherine and Renee can t cover up. If you want silent sex wear earplugs, because in the real world it s a noisy business whoever you are. Perhaps you could warn your man that this is what is likely to happen and you could also try using lubrication to keep the noise down a bit. But overall you’re far better off just doing it and enjoying yourself.
My wife and her soulmate
My wife of 19 years has met her soul mate, he's been married 13 yrs, has 3 children and has had a string of affairs . I have tried to break them up but they cannot keep there hands of each other . I've met him and he's an ok person. I'm trying to accept that she has a new man in her life, I am feeling lost, lonely and confused . We have 2 teenagers children and I do not know what to say to them ?
From Nigel
Answer
You are expressing to us your anger and confusion. This is what you need to express to your wife, in words. Try also; it can be difficult at these times, to express your love and feelings for her. Find out (ask her) how she feels about the two relationships. Ask her how she feels about you. This will take guts but it is only with this information open and shared between you, can you both then make decisions about your future and your kids. If your kids are old enough, seek their opinions, too. They may well be aware of what is happening and feeling confused, possibly frightened by it.
